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What a Woman Wants - Her Point of View |
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Sunday, 15 July 2007 |
I often hear men express exasperation about what a woman wants and how to please her. To many men, a woman is like a complicated piece of equipment that has no operators manual! Not only that, but to a man, women are unpredictable and the rules seem to be constantly changing. If you are anything like most men, you might feel like, what worked yesterday doesn't work today, so what on earth am I supposed to do! Well, fear not, there IS hope and I aim to share it with you! First lets start with a wholehearted endorsement of men. I really like men and think you guys are great and have wonderful things to offer us women. I also wholeheartedly embrace my femininity and I love women and being a woman. And I believe that once we stop believing in the battle of the sexes, that is when we will stop experiencing it. Men and women mostly want the same things, the big difference comes from HOW they want those things delivered. Not only that but we are obviously different and both sexes need to be appreciated in different ways. A quick fix solution to get through to a woman is this; pay attention to her feelings, her actions, her body language and most importantly the subtle unspoked cues she sends to you. In one moment that might mean a kiss on the neck, in another moment that could mean plenty of space and time away from you! When a man can check his ego long enough to realize she might just need to process her feelings or have time to miss him, he will start to have more success with women. The men who are most successful with women are the ones that can give her something she wants without her having to ask for it. I know that sounds crazy to most men, you might be thinking "do I have to be a mind reader or something?" NO. It is not as complicated as you might think. It is just a matter of noticing her mood and doing or saying something that lets her know that you care and understand. But, and this is critical, you must do this without appearing needy, clingy or manipulative. Really strong men who respect themselves pay attention to women and like women, and they respect woment too. This seems more complicated than it is, and applies to having great sex, just as much as it applies to getting along outside of the sack. Look, sometimes a woman is looking for a good time, much like a man. I sweat it's true. Sometimes even a hot woman just wants to have a good time. But what makes her want to have that good time with guy #1 and not guy #2? It is the extra effort that guy #1 is willing to give her by noticing and respecting what she wants and when. Not only that, but this doesn't mean you have to offer her a marriage proposal (unless you want to). And this is where a lot of guys get into trouble. Being dishonest to get what you want won't work in the long run and will only end up trashing your reputation. An honest appreciation and expression of your attraction for her (without overdoing it and sounding insencere) will go a lot further than flashing a stack of cash or the keys to your new Mazerati. Manipulative actions will only get you the wrong sort of woman! If you are both after the same thing, then great time to move forward. If not, then great, time to move on and look for someone who is. And that is how to give a woman what she wants. And believe me, both of you will appreciate your extra efforts once you take it to the bedroom. Lisette Freedlander writes for Dr. Love. For more tips on single dating and giving a woman what she wants visit Dr. Love at dating tip
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